Last night when Ashleigh's therapist was here, I went over some things with Ashleigh. I told her that if she makes a mess (examples to come) that she has to clean them up. That if she takes food, that she has to do jobs around the house to pay for that food. If she pour shampoo, etc down the toilet, sink, etc, then she has to pay for those items. I also told her that if things continues than she will lose things for the rest of the year. I also told her that she will keep her room clean. She needs to take responsibility for her actions.
The examples of the messes she had to clean up:
1. 2 nights ago while Noah, Ethan, & I were watching Tooth Fairy, Ashleigh told us she was going to bed. She might have gone up to bed then return downstairs just to go to the basements. While in the basement, she got into the glue & glitter. She put it onto a knock knob thing & got the glue & glitter onto my area rug along with the cement floor. I made her clean it up. When Ashleigh was cleaning up the mess, I would over the rules of the basement. I told her that she is not allow in the basement. That this area from here to there (laundry to the bookcase) is off limits to her. Ashleigh has to have an adult with her to be in the basement & in the kitchen. (Kitchen is a new rule!)
2. Shawn found that there was chocolate ice cream & the lid for the ice cream behind our sectional along with ice cream on the wall. I found the spoon. Ashleigh also cleaned up this mess, too.
Lesson in this is that she will learn that if she makes the mess than she has to clean it up & that is not so much fun!!
We also went over that this is 3 year old behavior & not 12 year old behavior. That Ashleigh needs to think be she does things. It is also time that Ashleigh does more jobs around the house. Right now she has no choice she has had money to pay back for items she took/pour down the drain, etc.
Earlier today Ashleigh hit her brother, Noah. I was in the other room. I told her that this behavior will not be allowed in this house. The other day Ashleigh & I went over what personal space was. I made sure she understood what we were talking about so we went over it a couple times. After lunch, Ashleigh wrote Noah a letter telling him how sorry he was. It was 3 sentences. I told her that next time it would be 6 sentences. The following time 9 sentences. I had to do something. Noah liked this.
Our home is a War Zone! We are working with the therapists to get it to a calm environment. I am hoping we will get there one day!
Melissa
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