I am not sure where to begin. Noah has been having some problems understanding why I am like I am & why his sister is the way she is. I wanted to give you some background information before I tell you more about what Noah is feeling today.
I told him I got hurt at work, had to have back surgery (December, 2006), and then recover from that. It took awhile, but I got better. Noah was 2 at this time. We put Noah into preschool in February, 2007. In April 2007, Noah turned 3. Noah had problems starting preschool along with other issues like night terrors, sleep walking, & bed wetting. Noah was worried about me leaving him. When Noah went to school, we had to tell him I was going to pick him up or that I was home. Things improved for Noah. The night terrors went away as I improved so did the sleep walking. The bed wetting took a little longer. I called the pediatrician for help on this one & I was told to read this book "Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems". It really helped us. Noah stopped bed wetting.
Noah wants to know why I can not do certain things. It is hard for me to play on the floor. It hurts to do so & I can not be there for very long so I don't do it. I need to be on the couch or in a chair to play with the kids. We do take walks since I was told to get up & move. I can stand for short times. I was better off before I reinjured my back in April, 2010, December, 2010 & January, 2011. I now have a broken screw in my spine. I have Noah in soccer. He has been playing soccer since he was in Kindergarten. It hurts, but I know the reward Noah gets is greater so it is worth all the pain I feel.
I told Noah that his sister was born this way. That Ashleigh is just learning that she is different than others her age & she does not like this. She is learning that others her age has a higher reading level. She is learning that others can run better, walk better, & can do a lot more things. I asked Noah "How he would feel if he was Ashleigh & her little brother's reading was better than hers."
Each Wednesday night during Reading Night, we always have something happen. Ashleigh does not want to stay the entire time we are reading. She only wants to read her book & then leave. She also calls Noah a name or 2. Noah then cries. I run after him asking him what is wrong. He wants to know why his sister is so mean to him. It does not always happen each Wednesday night, but it also happen at least once or twice a week. I told him that I think Ashleigh is mean to him because:
1. He is the likely choice
2. He is older than Ethan
3. He can do things Ashleigh can not do like running, etc.
4. His reading will pass Ashleigh's.
5. Noah will be able to drive a car.
I know that the Wednesday night Reading Nights & the Thursday night Reading Nights with Noah only are important. I realized this when I wrote this blog called Special Needs Siblings. I read an article about Special Needs Siblings. It made me realized that these nights can not be taken away from my boys & I need to continue to do them weekly. The boys love them. I love how Noah invites Ashleigh to join us. He wants her to be a part of this.
Noah is also getting time with his dad on their own. They have been playing the X-box or taking a trip to the store or Best Buy.
I made a decision about Noah with his help. Noah told me that he wanted to go to someone to talk about why he felt this way. I made an appointment with Ashleigh's old therapist before she was put back into the wrap around program. This way she knows information about Ashleigh, but I just need to tell her more about me. We had his first appointment last week. It went well. I am hoping this helps Noah be able to handle his questions about his sister & me.
Melissa
I told him I got hurt at work, had to have back surgery (December, 2006), and then recover from that. It took awhile, but I got better. Noah was 2 at this time. We put Noah into preschool in February, 2007. In April 2007, Noah turned 3. Noah had problems starting preschool along with other issues like night terrors, sleep walking, & bed wetting. Noah was worried about me leaving him. When Noah went to school, we had to tell him I was going to pick him up or that I was home. Things improved for Noah. The night terrors went away as I improved so did the sleep walking. The bed wetting took a little longer. I called the pediatrician for help on this one & I was told to read this book "Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems". It really helped us. Noah stopped bed wetting.
Noah wants to know why I can not do certain things. It is hard for me to play on the floor. It hurts to do so & I can not be there for very long so I don't do it. I need to be on the couch or in a chair to play with the kids. We do take walks since I was told to get up & move. I can stand for short times. I was better off before I reinjured my back in April, 2010, December, 2010 & January, 2011. I now have a broken screw in my spine. I have Noah in soccer. He has been playing soccer since he was in Kindergarten. It hurts, but I know the reward Noah gets is greater so it is worth all the pain I feel.
I told Noah that his sister was born this way. That Ashleigh is just learning that she is different than others her age & she does not like this. She is learning that others her age has a higher reading level. She is learning that others can run better, walk better, & can do a lot more things. I asked Noah "How he would feel if he was Ashleigh & her little brother's reading was better than hers."
Each Wednesday night during Reading Night, we always have something happen. Ashleigh does not want to stay the entire time we are reading. She only wants to read her book & then leave. She also calls Noah a name or 2. Noah then cries. I run after him asking him what is wrong. He wants to know why his sister is so mean to him. It does not always happen each Wednesday night, but it also happen at least once or twice a week. I told him that I think Ashleigh is mean to him because:
1. He is the likely choice
2. He is older than Ethan
3. He can do things Ashleigh can not do like running, etc.
4. His reading will pass Ashleigh's.
5. Noah will be able to drive a car.
I know that the Wednesday night Reading Nights & the Thursday night Reading Nights with Noah only are important. I realized this when I wrote this blog called Special Needs Siblings. I read an article about Special Needs Siblings. It made me realized that these nights can not be taken away from my boys & I need to continue to do them weekly. The boys love them. I love how Noah invites Ashleigh to join us. He wants her to be a part of this.
Noah is also getting time with his dad on their own. They have been playing the X-box or taking a trip to the store or Best Buy.
I made a decision about Noah with his help. Noah told me that he wanted to go to someone to talk about why he felt this way. I made an appointment with Ashleigh's old therapist before she was put back into the wrap around program. This way she knows information about Ashleigh, but I just need to tell her more about me. We had his first appointment last week. It went well. I am hoping this helps Noah be able to handle his questions about his sister & me.
Melissa
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