I tried to type this up Sunday night, but all these bad images kept going through my head.
On Sunday, Ashleigh & Noah went outside to play. Why not? It was a beautiful day. Warm. No chilly. Just a perfect day to play outside. We live on a died end street. I was thinking it was perfect. I know where my kids (Ash & Noah) play. It is between 3 houses. The one next door to us, 3 doors down from us, or in our yard. Our kids don't stay in 1 yard. They move between the 3 yards. Each mom knows where they will be.
Ash normally plays in these 3 yards or the one to the right of the 3 doors down from us. Well, we have a rule of no inside that house. (Long story) Ashleigh came home with gas all over her legs. She had jeans on. You could smell the gas as soon as she got into the living room. It is not that far from the front door.
I told her to tell me what happen once I got her into the tub. That I had to get her out of those jeans like now. Once I got her into the bathroom, Ash was complaining her legs were burning. I got her into the water & told her to use a lot of soap. I wanted to see bubbles. She told me what happened. A 4 year old poured it on her. Ash does not always know what to do in a situation like this. We talked to her tonight of what she should had done. She did tell this child no several times, but this child did push her down a few weeks ago. I talked to her mother about that.
I put Ethan into the bathroom with Ash so I could walk down the road to speak with this mother. I was not in the best of moods. Her reply was "She is 4 years old. What do you want me to do?" Well, for starters is to NOT HAVE GAS WHERE A FOUR YEAR OLD CAN GET TO IT!!! ANYONE MOTHER KNOWS THIS. This mother kept repeating this to me that she is 4. I believe that this is the mother's fault. That the mother DID NOT teach her not to play with gas. NOT to pour it on anyone. Why would anyone do that to someone else? The mother should not had the container of gas where a four year old could have gotten her hands on it. Ashleigh did not have a little on her.
We are very lucky it was not worse. My husband, Shawn, was thinking about Ash getting it in her mouth or eyes. That did not happen. I called him after I spoke with this mother. He of course was not happy. He had me speak with the state police. Of course, they could not do anything about this because she is only 4, but I was told that I can report her to CYS (Child & Youth Services). The state trooper was very nice. She told me that I had the right instinct because we won't let Ash into that house (too many boyfriends in short time frames-another blog for another day!!). She gave me a lot to think about.
So, Shawn was thinking of Ash's mouth & eyes. I went straight to flames, fire, & matches. I am not sure why. I guess when I think of gas on clothes I associate it with fire. I said this to this mother. She replied "My daughter does not play with matches." I said, "Well, she is playing in gas." That does not mean much to me since my daughter had gas on her. I was also thinking what this gas on Ash's jeans would do to her & her condition. I was worried. So far, no rash.
I told the state trooper that Ash will not be playing with this mother's 2 daughters. I should had asked what would had happen if this child was older than 4? I think the mother should had gotten a visit from the state trooper. I don't care how old the child is.
Since my mother in law is moving on January 2, we decided that it is best that we move up our move to December 26. We are moving over Ashleigh & Noah's Christmas break. We will be all in the house together, but I am looking forward to it since we won't see her that much. I think it would be good for the kids to see their Nana some before she leaves.
We were worried if we stayed here until June that we would not be able to keep Ashleigh safe from this child. I know she is only 4, but look what she just did. Her mother has not been watching her that well. When my 2 older kids were 4, they were not outside on their own. I just started letting them out on their own. Noah is 7 & Ashleigh is 11. We felt the only way to protect Ashleigh & Noah is to move now.
Today we went to their new school. It is in a new school district. They will be together. =) It is a very nice school. I filled out the transfer papers. It will take awhile to get Ashleigh's IEP sent to them.
I started packing boxes Saturday. I pack a box then rest. Pack a box then rest. Maybe rest some more. Depending on my back. Today I was hurting a bit more so I had Noah & Ash helping me in the evening doing some. We only did a couple. I am looking forward to our new life in the new year. New school district.
We have lived here for 12 years. We have never had a problem until this happened. This mom is a mom that locks her kids out without lunch & so much more.
I hope your week is going better than ours!
Melissa
Ash normally plays in these 3 yards or the one to the right of the 3 doors down from us. Well, we have a rule of no inside that house. (Long story) Ashleigh came home with gas all over her legs. She had jeans on. You could smell the gas as soon as she got into the living room. It is not that far from the front door.
I told her to tell me what happen once I got her into the tub. That I had to get her out of those jeans like now. Once I got her into the bathroom, Ash was complaining her legs were burning. I got her into the water & told her to use a lot of soap. I wanted to see bubbles. She told me what happened. A 4 year old poured it on her. Ash does not always know what to do in a situation like this. We talked to her tonight of what she should had done. She did tell this child no several times, but this child did push her down a few weeks ago. I talked to her mother about that.
I put Ethan into the bathroom with Ash so I could walk down the road to speak with this mother. I was not in the best of moods. Her reply was "She is 4 years old. What do you want me to do?" Well, for starters is to NOT HAVE GAS WHERE A FOUR YEAR OLD CAN GET TO IT!!! ANYONE MOTHER KNOWS THIS. This mother kept repeating this to me that she is 4. I believe that this is the mother's fault. That the mother DID NOT teach her not to play with gas. NOT to pour it on anyone. Why would anyone do that to someone else? The mother should not had the container of gas where a four year old could have gotten her hands on it. Ashleigh did not have a little on her.
We are very lucky it was not worse. My husband, Shawn, was thinking about Ash getting it in her mouth or eyes. That did not happen. I called him after I spoke with this mother. He of course was not happy. He had me speak with the state police. Of course, they could not do anything about this because she is only 4, but I was told that I can report her to CYS (Child & Youth Services). The state trooper was very nice. She told me that I had the right instinct because we won't let Ash into that house (too many boyfriends in short time frames-another blog for another day!!). She gave me a lot to think about.
So, Shawn was thinking of Ash's mouth & eyes. I went straight to flames, fire, & matches. I am not sure why. I guess when I think of gas on clothes I associate it with fire. I said this to this mother. She replied "My daughter does not play with matches." I said, "Well, she is playing in gas." That does not mean much to me since my daughter had gas on her. I was also thinking what this gas on Ash's jeans would do to her & her condition. I was worried. So far, no rash.
I told the state trooper that Ash will not be playing with this mother's 2 daughters. I should had asked what would had happen if this child was older than 4? I think the mother should had gotten a visit from the state trooper. I don't care how old the child is.
Since my mother in law is moving on January 2, we decided that it is best that we move up our move to December 26. We are moving over Ashleigh & Noah's Christmas break. We will be all in the house together, but I am looking forward to it since we won't see her that much. I think it would be good for the kids to see their Nana some before she leaves.
We were worried if we stayed here until June that we would not be able to keep Ashleigh safe from this child. I know she is only 4, but look what she just did. Her mother has not been watching her that well. When my 2 older kids were 4, they were not outside on their own. I just started letting them out on their own. Noah is 7 & Ashleigh is 11. We felt the only way to protect Ashleigh & Noah is to move now.
Today we went to their new school. It is in a new school district. They will be together. =) It is a very nice school. I filled out the transfer papers. It will take awhile to get Ashleigh's IEP sent to them.
I started packing boxes Saturday. I pack a box then rest. Pack a box then rest. Maybe rest some more. Depending on my back. Today I was hurting a bit more so I had Noah & Ash helping me in the evening doing some. We only did a couple. I am looking forward to our new life in the new year. New school district.
We have lived here for 12 years. We have never had a problem until this happened. This mom is a mom that locks her kids out without lunch & so much more.
I hope your week is going better than ours!
Melissa
Wow. That is crazy. I'm so sorry that happened to Ashleigh. I can't believe that the gas was located where a four year old could get to it. It sounds like for the safety of your kids and your sanity, it is a good idea to push your move up. Plus the holidays with Nana will be really special for your kids.
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