Ashleigh's room has finally been touched!! Yesterday (Satuday) the futon was moved out of Ashleigh's room, which meant that Shawn could set up Ashleigh's bed where we wanted it. In her old room, we had a few problems with Ashleigh.
1. Her bed CAN NOT be against the wall because all kinds of things would be against the wall, under the bed, etc.
2. Furniture could not be angled in her room because items would be thrown behind it like food, etc.
3. She would steal food, drinks & put the trash into Noah & Ethan's room. (See first House Rule)
3. She would steal food, drinks & put the trash into Noah & Ethan's room. (See first House Rule)
We went over the rules with her & I plan to do a BIG wooden frame rules so she & the boys can see them. I have the wood already. I just have to paint the wood. Get paint pens & get to work. Then, find a place to hang it. I am thinking of doing this differently. I will explain in a sec.
I am working on the rules. We have told the kids the new rule, Rule #1 over & over again. It is hard to get a almost 3 year old not to take his cup off of the first floor, but we will continue to tell him. Once we have the rules done, we will have a family meeting together & go over them. I will also show a copy to the therapist (Ashleigh's).
I really like these rules. I love the House Rules, Each Day I will, Once a week I will, Examples of Special Things my Parents may do, & Examples of Consequences when I do not cooperate. I would like to do this along with Positive Discipline. I have the book coming (Special Needs) coming soon, but I have to call our bank to change our address since Amazon won't send it out since my zip code does not match my bank's zip code. These are perfect. I will print this below out & make Ashleigh & Noah sign it. I will keep those signed copies somewhere else. I want to hang this in their rooms where they can see it daily. I have extra frames here. I can paint the frame to match their rooms if they want me to.
These House Rules is actually what I want. I used what this site said plus I added more that suits our kids. Here they are:
House Rules
*I will not take food or drink off of the first floor.
*I will do what my parents ask without whining or making excuses.
*I will not yell, scream, slam doors, run to my room or call people name when I don't get my way or when I am upset.
*I will pick up & put everything away in my room every evening. Dirty laundry belongs in the hamper & not on the floor. Books belong on the bookcase & toys with toys.
*I will clean & put away anything I use or play with in the house each night before I go to bed. My items belongs in my rooms not anywhere else in the house.
*I will NOT borrow anything that does not borrow without permission & I will return it to where it belongs & in good condition.
*I will sleep in my bed in my room.
*If Mom finds something of my where it does not belong, she will put it in her "basket" until the end of the week, then I can get it back.
I just started my "basket". With this 3 floor + basement house, I am tired of seeing the kids' items throughout the house, I told Shawn last night that if I see their items where they are not to be, then they go into my "basket" & once I have a location for my "basket", we will hide it. Right now, it is in our room. I saw this idea somewhere, but I can not remember where. I love it. Noah can get his items back. Things can get lost pretty easily here. For example, in the old place (reminder: 2 bedroom mobile home), Noah lost his ds xl in July I think. We searched for it EVERYWHERE!! Guess what we found when we moved? Yep, his ds xl in the recliner. It was inside. One of the AWESOME helpers found it! Thank you so much!!! =) He was like "Is this important?" My "Basket" is one of my favorite things I invented!
The next is very important to Ashleigh. Each day we remind Ashleigh what to do like to comb her hair, to put on deodorant. We also tell her not to look like she just crawled out of bed. She is 11. I should not have to dress her myself. I have too much to do around here. I really need to get done "My Day in the Life".
Each Day I will
*Get up at 7a.
*Catch my bus at ____a & get off of the bus at ____p.
*Bath nights (Ash is Sun & Thurs; Boys are Mon & Wedn).
*Comb my hair.
*Get dressed. Use a belt if needed.
*Put on deodorant (Ashleigh).
*Make my bed.
*Pick up & put away everything in my room.
* Eat breakfast, lunch, & dinner.
*Put my lunch bag in my backpack.
*Do my homework.
*Help Mom/Dad take Zeus outside.
*Help Mom/Dad when I am asked.
* Help set the table if I am asked.
*Brush my teeth.
*Put on my pjs by 8p.
*Pick & get out clothes for the next day of school.
*Dirty laundry in Hamper.
*Get in bed at 8:30 to read.
*Turn off lights at 9p.
*Feed the dog/cats.
*Help more around the house.
I want to add more here, but not sure what else. I think once I get my chalkboard or dry erase painted on the doors (not sure which one I want to do now), I can make a schedule for the kids sheets/comforter. Until then, they can tell me when they think it needs done.
Once a week I will
*Empty my trash in my room.
*Tell Mom when my sheets/comforter needs washed.
Examples of Special Things my Parents May Do
*Give me Money for my Chores (Noah needs to save this for his puppy.)
*Kid's Choice Night
*Buy Me Clothes
*Buy Me Special Gift
*Help me with homework
*Movie Night
*Game Night
*Reading Night
*Dinner Out/Movie Theater
*Take me places to have fun (swimming, etc)
Examples of Consequences when I do not Cooperate
*Copy My Rules
*No Money
*No Spending
*Must stay in my room
*No Kid's Choice
*No video or Tv
*No Phone
*No Music
*No DS
*No Leappad
*No games
I really like these rules. I love the House Rules, Each Day I will, Once a week I will, Examples of Special Things my Parents may do, & Examples of Consequences when I do not cooperate. I would like to do this along with Positive Discipline. I have the book coming (Special Needs) coming soon, but I have to call our bank to change our address since Amazon won't send it out since my zip code does not match my bank's zip code. These are perfect. I will print this below out & make Ashleigh & Noah sign it. I will keep those signed copies somewhere else. I want to hang this in their rooms where they can see it daily. I have extra frames here. I can paint the frame to match their rooms if they want me to.
These House Rules is actually what I want. I used what this site said plus I added more that suits our kids. Here they are:
House Rules
*I will not take food or drink off of the first floor.
*I will do what my parents ask without whining or making excuses.
*I will not yell, scream, slam doors, run to my room or call people name when I don't get my way or when I am upset.
*I will pick up & put everything away in my room every evening. Dirty laundry belongs in the hamper & not on the floor. Books belong on the bookcase & toys with toys.
*I will clean & put away anything I use or play with in the house each night before I go to bed. My items belongs in my rooms not anywhere else in the house.
*I will NOT borrow anything that does not borrow without permission & I will return it to where it belongs & in good condition.
*I will sleep in my bed in my room.
*If I see something that needs done in the house, I will help Mom by doing it. (added January 7, 2012)
*If I make a mess, I will clean it up. (Added January 7, 2012)
*If Mom finds something of my where it does not belong, she will put it in her "basket" until the end of the week, then I can get it back.
I just started my "basket". With this 3 floor + basement house, I am tired of seeing the kids' items throughout the house, I told Shawn last night that if I see their items where they are not to be, then they go into my "basket" & once I have a location for my "basket", we will hide it. Right now, it is in our room. I saw this idea somewhere, but I can not remember where. I love it. Noah can get his items back. Things can get lost pretty easily here. For example, in the old place (reminder: 2 bedroom mobile home), Noah lost his ds xl in July I think. We searched for it EVERYWHERE!! Guess what we found when we moved? Yep, his ds xl in the recliner. It was inside. One of the AWESOME helpers found it! Thank you so much!!! =) He was like "Is this important?" My "Basket" is one of my favorite things I invented!
The next is very important to Ashleigh. Each day we remind Ashleigh what to do like to comb her hair, to put on deodorant. We also tell her not to look like she just crawled out of bed. She is 11. I should not have to dress her myself. I have too much to do around here. I really need to get done "My Day in the Life".
Each Day I will
*Get up at 7a.
*Catch my bus at ____a & get off of the bus at ____p.
*Bath nights (Ash is Sun & Thurs; Boys are Mon & Wedn).
*Comb my hair.
*Get dressed. Use a belt if needed.
*Put on deodorant (Ashleigh).
*Make my bed.
*Pick up & put away everything in my room.
* Eat breakfast, lunch, & dinner.
*Put my lunch bag in my backpack.
*Do my homework.
*Help Mom/Dad take Zeus outside.
*Help Mom/Dad when I am asked.
* Help set the table if I am asked.
*Brush my teeth.
*Put on my pjs by 8p.
*Pick & get out clothes for the next day of school.
*Dirty laundry in Hamper.
*Get in bed at 8:30 to read.
*Turn off lights at 9p.
*Feed the dog/cats.
*Help more around the house.
I want to add more here, but not sure what else. I think once I get my chalkboard or dry erase painted on the doors (not sure which one I want to do now), I can make a schedule for the kids sheets/comforter. Until then, they can tell me when they think it needs done.
Once a week I will
*Empty my trash in my room.
*Tell Mom when my sheets/comforter needs washed.
Examples of Special Things my Parents May Do
*Give me Money for my Chores (Noah needs to save this for his puppy.)
*Kid's Choice Night
*Buy Me Clothes
*Buy Me Special Gift
*Help me with homework
*Movie Night
*Game Night
*Reading Night
*Dinner Out/Movie Theater
*Take me places to have fun (swimming, etc)
Examples of Consequences when I do not Cooperate
*Copy My Rules
*No Money
*No Spending
*Must stay in my room
*No Kid's Choice
*No video or Tv
*No Phone
*No Music
*No DS
*No Leappad
*No games
This time in her room we decided to do it differently. Her bed is not against a wall. It is away from the wall with an end table that was in our living room in our old place. We want to know what is around her bed. To keep an eye on her. Her dresser is against a wall.
Tonight I go into her room & Ashleigh decided today to unpack some of her things- some books (all of them) & some clothes. I guess she wanted to help me. That is nice of her, but pjs don't get hang up. I fold them in her dresser. The shirts she hang up she did a great job doing that. I told her last night she had to earn her books back. Ashleigh has been getting me some issues with her attitude towards me. Like saying I don't do anything for her, & a lot more. I need her to show me she can keep her room clean with what she has in there before I go & add more into it.
Back in the old place, Ashleigh's room would be so messy that you could not see the carpet. I mean it. Papers everywhere. Books everywhere. Stuffed animals everywhere. I am not sure if I have a picture of this or not. I want to go through her stuffed animals & get rid of some. I am doing the same with the boys' stuffed animals.
Earlier in this, I was talking about our rules being painted on a piece of wood. I wanted to do it differently. I have seen them done differently. I want FAMILY to be highlighted within these below. Meaning the letters throughout these. Check out this site for an example, but my will be a bit different.
Here is what I have found so far:
Family's First
Always Tell the Truth
DreaM BIG
Create MemorIes
Laugh Often
Smile
Say I Love You
Wish on Stars
HAVE FUN
Be strong
Mommy is allergic to whining!
Offer to Help
Laugh-Giggle-Be Silly
Share
Work Hard
Please & Thank You
Know you are loved
Listen. Think. Speak.
Do Your Best
Use Kind Words
Always be Honest
Be Kind/Honest/Happy (Sharing the BE) or Be Patient/Forgiving/Grateful
Use your Imagination
Put your things away
Count your blessings
Never Give Up
Give lots of hugs
Learn something every day
No Whining
Inspire and Create
Clean up your own Messes
Encourage each other
Always have faith
dance
Lead by example
Keep Your Promises
The highlighted blue ones is the ones I definitely want to use especially the first 6. The other blue ones I want to use, too, but the other ones I will have to wait until I am creating this. I also want to make one of these signs for the bathroom! It is mainly for the kids. You know, Flush, Put down the seat! That kind of thing. I can not wait until I can create. But, I have boxes to unpack. Wait, I have to unpack the boxes because my paints are still packed away. I need those to paint the wood. Then, I can go get a paint pen or 2.
I am hoping the next update on Ashleigh's room will have pictures. Sorry! I still want to take pictures with my digital camera. All of the pictures are from my cell phone. If you waited for pictures from my digital camera, we would be here awhile.
Melissa
Tonight I go into her room & Ashleigh decided today to unpack some of her things- some books (all of them) & some clothes. I guess she wanted to help me. That is nice of her, but pjs don't get hang up. I fold them in her dresser. The shirts she hang up she did a great job doing that. I told her last night she had to earn her books back. Ashleigh has been getting me some issues with her attitude towards me. Like saying I don't do anything for her, & a lot more. I need her to show me she can keep her room clean with what she has in there before I go & add more into it.
Back in the old place, Ashleigh's room would be so messy that you could not see the carpet. I mean it. Papers everywhere. Books everywhere. Stuffed animals everywhere. I am not sure if I have a picture of this or not. I want to go through her stuffed animals & get rid of some. I am doing the same with the boys' stuffed animals.
Earlier in this, I was talking about our rules being painted on a piece of wood. I wanted to do it differently. I have seen them done differently. I want FAMILY to be highlighted within these below. Meaning the letters throughout these. Check out this site for an example, but my will be a bit different.
Here is what I have found so far:
Family's First
Always Tell the Truth
DreaM BIG
Create MemorIes
Laugh Often
Smile
Say I Love You
Wish on Stars
HAVE FUN
Be strong
Mommy is allergic to whining!
Offer to Help
Laugh-Giggle-Be Silly
Share
Work Hard
Please & Thank You
Know you are loved
Listen. Think. Speak.
Do Your Best
Use Kind Words
Always be Honest
Be Kind/Honest/Happy (Sharing the BE) or Be Patient/Forgiving/Grateful
Use your Imagination
Put your things away
Count your blessings
Never Give Up
Give lots of hugs
Learn something every day
No Whining
Inspire and Create
Clean up your own Messes
Encourage each other
Always have faith
dance
Lead by example
Keep Your Promises
The highlighted blue ones is the ones I definitely want to use especially the first 6. The other blue ones I want to use, too, but the other ones I will have to wait until I am creating this. I also want to make one of these signs for the bathroom! It is mainly for the kids. You know, Flush, Put down the seat! That kind of thing. I can not wait until I can create. But, I have boxes to unpack. Wait, I have to unpack the boxes because my paints are still packed away. I need those to paint the wood. Then, I can go get a paint pen or 2.
I am hoping the next update on Ashleigh's room will have pictures. Sorry! I still want to take pictures with my digital camera. All of the pictures are from my cell phone. If you waited for pictures from my digital camera, we would be here awhile.
Melissa
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